Many of you will know, Matt and Pat (my two brothers) make up two of the three most important men in my life; the third is a ginger haired man who is to blame for the nose and the unfortunate colour of my unborn children's hair. When I said my farewells to them back in November, over 160days ago, I never anticipated another goodbye like it. However saying goodbye to my family of brothers and friends I've found in Kolkata proved equally as tough. Getting on the plane to leave Kolkata genuinely felt like I was tearing a piece of me apart. But I know for sure I'll be back. Kolkata feels like my second home and Future Hope has firmly secured itself a big piece of my heart.
Kerala provided some slight relief from the heat and humidity of Kolkata. With my new fresh faced saga-club travel companions (mum and Ian) we touched down in Trivendruim, beginning our 12 day trip.
Watching India through the fresh eyes of Mum and Ian was quite a giggle. While Ian squirmed each time our tuk tuk came within inches of other vehicles, mum took a bit of time to adjust to the Indian males' attitudes; even educated states like Kerala appear to place women as second class citizens. Meal times were a whole new adventure. Ian struggles with even peppery food, so when we ordered a chilli-infused double fry mutton dish, just sniffing the meat got him perspiring!
We started with 2 days relaxing by an empty pool before heading to the tip of India at Kanyamari. The 24 hours spent there were quite poignant, the end of India and the end of my trip.
Kerala is famous for its back waters and its tea plantations, both things we wanted to taste. From Kollam we took an overnight stay in a traditional Keralan house boat. Being British you would have thought we'd check the weather. We'd assumed the Indian sun would be out blasting us like it had on all previous days, however the torrential down pour and vicious thunder storms took us by surprise. The ducks loved it though. Late in the afternoon we hoped into small canoe, accessing the smaller canals. The vessel was similar to a punt though the guide was less than impressed with my attempt of driving. The highlight had to be seeing a water snake, my first wild snake in India.
Munnar, up in the hills provided a much needed break from the heat. More beautiful than Darjeeling, the endless tea plantations and lush green forests created a patch work like quilt across the Tamil Nadu border. The sunset over the mountains was one of my more colourful.
Our final stop was Marari Beach, a tiny undiscovered fishing village with a deserted white sandy beach. In other words, paradise. The final 4 of my 160 days saw me throw my conservative clothing and attitude into my bag and finally sit on a towel in an appropriately small amount of clothing, my last attempt to come home looking like an Indian.
Wanting to finish off my experience authentically, mum and I went for a traditional aruveydic massage with an 80 year old male doctor. For such a conservative country, particularly when it comes to women's clothing and covering up, I seem to have all too often found myself completely naked in a room with two local women. Having signed some papers informing me I was to have a "GBM" - something I later found to imply Gross Bodily Molestation - I found myself in what looked like an old apothecary crossed with a medieval operating room. I was simply instructed "All off." Once I'd stripped under the watchful gaze of the women, I was given a cave man-esque handkerchief to cover what little was left of my dignity. Then the proceedings began.
First a head massage requiring my hair to be oiled and my head to be slapped like a fish. All this while sat bare on a hard back chair. After 5 minutes of this intriguing start, I was instructed to climb onto the operating table, still oily from the previous client. Luckily for me this was just my mother. The redundant handkerchief was again removed while I took up various lying positions: face down, sleep position on your side, and - most revealing - face up. The latter I felt I was being prepared for mummification. In all of the positions I had oily rubbed into every crevice by two pairs of hands, some areas normally regarded as intimate and private. This was not for the prudish! Face up, I found myself undergoing a thorough breast cancer check. Very odd. In the background the local hare Krishna group carried out their rehearsal and the coconut trees rustled. It was all very relaxing, well except for the quadruple-handed intimate rubbing part.
I thought oiling up would have been sufficient, however my two ladies, Bindu and Raju, took me to the shower room and told me to sit. I was then lathered up, hair washed, body rinsed and patted dry. I felt like an incapacitated mental health patient. Finally I was allowed to redress, still under the watchful eye of the masseuses. What did they think of my little white patches?!
So what have I learnt in my 5months of being bamboozled by India?
Smile.
Patience, things in India (and the rest of the world) take time.
Appreciating being born into a society where women are treated like equals and given a choice!
There are a few more lessons but ask me in person if you're really interested, I'm not about to go all free soul and "changed person" over the internet.
I'll sign off with a quote from the father of India, Mahatma Ghandi, known as the India of his dreams. Although India is on the way to realising Ghandi's dream, there is still a little way to go:
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My Ballygunge brothers |
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Mum and Ian in their first ever tuk tuk |
Ian's stomach didn't always agree with the local cuisine. |
Colourful fruits of Kerala. My favourite - red bananas! |
Tamil Nadu border in amongst the tea plantations. Mum and Ian took the constant fashion theme of Brits on African Safari. |
Munnar, up in the hills provided a much needed break from the heat. More beautiful than Darjeeling, the endless tea plantations and lush green forests created a patch work like quilt across the Tamil Nadu border. The sunset over the mountains was one of my more colourful.
Sunset over the Munnar Mountains |
Our final stop was Marari Beach, a tiny undiscovered fishing village with a deserted white sandy beach. In other words, paradise. The final 4 of my 160 days saw me throw my conservative clothing and attitude into my bag and finally sit on a towel in an appropriately small amount of clothing, my last attempt to come home looking like an Indian.
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Deserted Marari Beach at sunset |
Wanting to finish off my experience authentically, mum and I went for a traditional aruveydic massage with an 80 year old male doctor. For such a conservative country, particularly when it comes to women's clothing and covering up, I seem to have all too often found myself completely naked in a room with two local women. Having signed some papers informing me I was to have a "GBM" - something I later found to imply Gross Bodily Molestation - I found myself in what looked like an old apothecary crossed with a medieval operating room. I was simply instructed "All off." Once I'd stripped under the watchful gaze of the women, I was given a cave man-esque handkerchief to cover what little was left of my dignity. Then the proceedings began.
First a head massage requiring my hair to be oiled and my head to be slapped like a fish. All this while sat bare on a hard back chair. After 5 minutes of this intriguing start, I was instructed to climb onto the operating table, still oily from the previous client. Luckily for me this was just my mother. The redundant handkerchief was again removed while I took up various lying positions: face down, sleep position on your side, and - most revealing - face up. The latter I felt I was being prepared for mummification. In all of the positions I had oily rubbed into every crevice by two pairs of hands, some areas normally regarded as intimate and private. This was not for the prudish! Face up, I found myself undergoing a thorough breast cancer check. Very odd. In the background the local hare Krishna group carried out their rehearsal and the coconut trees rustled. It was all very relaxing, well except for the quadruple-handed intimate rubbing part.
Medieval oiled up massage bed |
So what have I learnt in my 5months of being bamboozled by India?
Smile.
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Vivek (left) and Ranjit (right), two of my many new brothers |
Appreciating being born into a society where women are treated like equals and given a choice!
There are a few more lessons but ask me in person if you're really interested, I'm not about to go all free soul and "changed person" over the internet.
Manchester Aiport Arrivals with Matt. The welcome home sign reads, "Kat Suddaby How was Prison?" |
I shall work for an India, in which the poorest
shall feel that it is their country in whose making
they have an effective voice;
an India in which there shall be
no high class and low class of people;
an India in which all communities shall
live in perfect harmony.
There can be no room in such an India
for the curse of untouchability or the curse
of the intoxicating drinks and drugs.
Women will enjoy the same rights as men.
We shall be at peace with all
the rest of the world.
This is the India of my dreams